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Bullied to death

This all started in year 7 I came to a school where I didn't know anyone, I was nervous, so people picked on me, they called me a bomber and other racist things say things about my family, I have regular fights, and get rushed every day, theirs a kid called .... And he's been flooring me and beting me up everyday, I'm sick and tired, in can’t tell my parents or teachers, or they'll call me a snitch and it'll get worse. Please help
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Thank you for getting in touch with me and letting me know what life is like for you. It seems like things have been difficult for you at school since you started year 7.
It’s really common to feel nervous when starting a new school and it’s wrong that people used this as an excuse to pick on you. All bullying is wrong and I want you to know that none of this is your fault. I can hear how hurtful it is when they make racist comments about you and your family. Racism is completely unacceptable, as well as being illegal. Everyone has the right to be accepted for who they are and respected for their culture and religion.

You’ve told me that the bullies also regularly physically hurt you. It worries me to hear this, because when bullying turns physical, there’s always a risk that someone might get seriously injured. I wonder if there is somewhere you could go to try and avoid this boy when he’s being aggressive? Is there a place where it’s usually busy, where he might not want to start a fight? Or is there anywhere where you can stay near members of staff at break or lunch time?

It sounds like you really care about your family but think that talking to them or a teacher about the bullying might make things worse. Telling someone about bullying is the right thing to do and unfortunately it is often the only way to make it stop. Schools have a legal duty to make sure that all their students are protected from racist bullying, so they should take anything you tell them extremely seriously. Sometimes, people find it easier to keep a diary about the bullying and show this to a trusted adult to help them understand what is happening.

I think that you have been very brave to talk to me about this. I can hear how fed up you are feeling. Maybe you’d like to talk to a counsellor at ChildLine about this. They can talk to you about the options you might have at the moment. You could do this by calling 0800 1111 (it’s a free call), emailing or logging in for a 1-2-1 chat. There is also information about bullying and building confidence and self esteem on the Explore pages. You may also want to look for lots of tips, support and advice.

Well done for asking for some support. You deserve to feel safe and happy. Getting in touch with me has been a great start to making that happen.

Take care,


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