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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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What you need to know:

  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Dad is HIV positive

I have just discovered that my dad is HIV positive - and has been for ages, but he hasn't told me. ​ I don't know if ...

Fixed term exclusion

hi sam, i was excluded for a fixed term in yr 10 i am extremly ashamed of what i did as i was verbally hurtfall to a ...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Transgender

i have always preferred being a girl to a boy and love crossdressing, my parents do not like it. They threaten to tak...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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seeing a married man

hi sam, im 17 and i really do like this guy i am seeing, hes 40, has children and is married. I feel bad and guilty a...

Teacher and me

I'm writing to tell you that I am in need of help as I am in love with my teacher whom I think likes me as well, we a...

Love my Teacher of 24

Hi Sam, I know you must get a lot of letters on this topic but I really am feeling at a loss of what to do. I'm 16, n...

dont hate....

well this is a long story but i need to tell someone,, well i have left school nearly 2years now. i got myself in to ...

Is 4 years too big?

I met a boy on holiday (he's 17 I'm 13) and we got pretty close, although nothing sexual haappened. We still talk a l...

i like my teacher

i m 12 yrs old and i've a kind of crush on my teacher. he is my music teacher and because ia m a choir student so we ...

Boy Troubles

i like this boy but he keeps asking me to do things with him but im only 12 nearly 13 and hes 14, but if i mess it up...

30years

so im 17 and hes 47, he loves me and i love him. but i know its wrong and i want to leave my family for him but i can...

Strangers

Hi I'm G and i'm 14I'm supposed to be meeting a 16/17 year old tomorrow to go to the cinema, i know he is 16/17 becau...

I crave a baby...

Hey Sam, I'm only 16 years old but I crave a baby.. I have got a boyfriend but we've never had sex. I don't want to...

my secret

i really like this boy and we are great friends but the problem is i dont really know what to do about it . no one kn...

Ahh I really like a boy,

Hi Sam, Me and my friend really like this boy. But the thing is we both think he's going out with our worst enemy. I...

crushing on my teacher

hi sam, im 13 i just wanted to tell you that i have a crush on my teacher and i know thats wrong, but i cant seem to...

in love with a girl

hi sam well, i'm a girl and i'm i love with a girl, i was really scared and still am but not as much but anyway a co...

Love?

Hi Im 11 And My Names S,Everyone Has Crushes At School Its Just I Dont Find Boys Interesting One BIT! I Mean Is It Ri...

he has a girlfriend

i am in love with a band member from black veil brides, a famous rock band, but he has a girlfriend and it kills me t...

Seeing no future.

i have been with my online boyfriend for just over a year, we live around 3000 miles apart as hes from brooklyn ny an...

Not knowing what to do

Recently my school went on a 4 day trip with lots of activities like rock climbing , abseiling,raft building and othe...

I don't exist to him.

I'm 13 years old and I'm starting year nine in September. I get around okay at school, I have a decent number of frie...

Relationships

I'm a 14 year old boy and there's a girl I have a crush on at school. I find it awkward asking her out and have tried...

My Crush

I have a crush on “M” at my school and I don't know what to do cause he don't feel the same way. Hope you can HELP!