Remember that there’s no right or wrong way to feel
Nobody can tell you how you should feel after someone dies – everyone has their own way of dealing with loss.
The death of someone you care about can be very difficult. These feelings are sometimes called grief. It's natural to have strong reactions when someone you care about dies.
You might feel:
Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to feel better straight away. These feelings will change over time. It's important to try to accept how you feel.
You might also be upset about the death of an animal or pet. Or when someone's still alive but you're not able to see or talk to them anymore. This can also really hurt.
Remember that there’s no right or wrong way to feel
Nobody can tell you how you should feel after someone dies – everyone has their own way of dealing with loss.
Things to remember
It's important to remember that feeling upset, scared or worried is normal. Lots of people feel this way after someone has died, but it's also OK if you don't.
If someone dies suddenly, you might feel shocked or worried. You might find your feelings very tough to deal with but there are things that can help you cope.
Everyone reacts to death differently and there's no right or wrong way to feel. When someone dies, you might feel:
You could be feeling worried about the funeral. You may be unsure about what’s going to happen and feel worried about feeling really upset on the day.
It’s OK to feel like this and it can really help to share these feelings with a safe adult or with a Childline counsellor.
Remembering someone who has died
Lots of people worry about forgetting someone who has died. It can help to collect things that help remind you of the person, like photos and gifts. You can keep these in a box or a safe place and take them out a reminder any time you want.
You might want to visit the grave or the place the ashes were scattered. But sometimes this can feel scary. If you’re not sure, it can help to talk to a safe adult.
You may find that birthdays and special events are times when you miss them most. But doing something to remember them on the day can really help.
It can be very upsetting when someone famous dies and it may have come as a real shock. Even if you haven’t met or spoken to them they could have played a big part in your life. Maybe you saw them on TV a lot or listened to their music most days. Their death may have reminded you of somebody else you really cared about who also died.
It’s OK to feel really upset. Sharing how you feel with a safe adult or Childline could really help.