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It wasnt me who made him gay.

Buddyyy - 12 July 2012 at 20:22

 

So about a year ago i met this boy called Shay and i started to really like him, then about 5 months later we got together, we was with eachother everyday doing everything together! We planned out our future and everything, he wanted to have his first sex with me, he was certain, and so was i. (even though i've had it before) we was inlove, deeply.

Then we broke up and we still talked and stuff just like we was together, but, then..he told me he was gay. & i was so confused because i loved him, im the only person that knows and he asked me to be his bestfriend, but i cant, not if im inlove with him, my heads all over the place. He still loves me, but he likes boys.

Talking to him everyday kills me, becaus he comes to me for everything, all of his problems, all of his secrets and i cant do it anymore, when he says he loves me, it kills me because i know that he doesnt mean it the way i do, What can i do?

 

hi there. i just read yr message. this must b a very difficult situation 4 u. u ound like u really do love him and it must have bn a real shock wen he told u tht he was gay. it must also b confusing 4 u about the fact tht he still loves u, but he likes boys.

i think tht u should tell him how u feel, cos this might develop an understanding btween the 2 of u and then u will have a better view of the whole relationship situation.  and i understand tht it is very hard 4 u tht yr his best friend and tht u said it kills u wen he speaks 2 u about his problms, knowing tht u want 2 b wid him, but u feel tht u cant. but nothings impossible. im not giving false hope, tho.

i think tht u should try contacting childline about it and c wot they can say about it. they will surely give better advice tht will help u. try telling another friend, mayb or a trustd adult?? u could mayb ask a trustd friend 2 speak 2 him about it on bhalf of u and c if this helps, or rely on those trustd adults, such as a teacher, counseller or trustd member of yr family- this doesnt have 2 b yr parents.

hope this helps. keep yr chin up and try and take this advice. tell me how it goes. always here.