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  • Alltheworldsastage

    23 February 2012 at 19:30

    Don't know what to do :/

     

    Ok, so I started self harming about a month ago, it hasn't got really bad but I guess it can never be 'good'. I was speaking to my favourite teacher about what was making me upset before I started to SH, she saw the cuts one day and asked if I was self harming and I just broke down. We then spoke for ages about it and she got really upset and worried and even started crying, I felt so horrible and I promised her that I would never do it again. And I didn't, untill about a week ago when I just did it, I couldn't stop, the first time i only did 3 cuts now I have 18 on my arm...I never see the teacher around school as she was my old teacher and I don't have her anymore and I never go past her classroom. Other teachers must have seen the marks because I forget and roll up my sleves or in dance the uniform is short sleved so surely they have seen them but no one has asked or looked shocked so I guess they don't think it's SH. In one way I want to go and see the teacher and say i'm sorry, I broke the promiss and show her to get help but I don't want to upset her. She also got other teachers involved last time and I hated it! They didn't know me so they had no idea what I was like and threatned to tell my parents, I can't trust them at all but I know if I tell my favourite teacher that she will definetly tell them and they'll phone my parents. I don't know what to do, any ideas?

  • becks1997

    27 February 2012 at 19:45

     
    rose-aline - 23 February 2012 at 19:30

     

    Ok, so I started self harming about a month ago, it hasn't got really bad but I guess it can never be 'good'. I was speaking to my favourite teacher about what was making me upset before I started to SH, she saw the cuts one day and asked if I was self harming and I just broke down. We then spoke for ages about it and she got really upset and worried and even started crying, I felt so horrible and I promised her that I would never do it again. And I didn't, untill about a week ago when I just did it, I couldn't stop, the first time i only did 3 cuts now I have 18 on my arm...I never see the teacher around school as she was my old teacher and I don't have her anymore and I never go past her classroom. Other teachers must have seen the marks because I forget and roll up my sleves or in dance the uniform is short sleved so surely they have seen them but no one has asked or looked shocked so I guess they don't think it's SH. In one way I want to go and see the teacher and say i'm sorry, I broke the promiss and show her to get help but I don't want to upset her. She also got other teachers involved last time and I hated it! They didn't know me so they had no idea what I was like and threatned to tell my parents, I can't trust them at all but I know if I tell my favourite teacher that she will definetly tell them and they'll phone my parents. I don't know what to do, any ideas?

     

    are you willing to risk it for a chocolate buiscut? you can try and speak to the teacher and specifically say please dont tell my parents, or you can keep it in and tell no one and then you won't stop. If i were you i would go for option 1. No one wants to SH and i'm sure you want help, you just need to trust yourself to find it. She probably got the other teachers involved because no one wants to see a child like that before they've even lived. It must have been hard for her to see you like that and im sure it meant the world to her that you went to her for help. Theres so many people out there who could try and help you. regrettably it doesnt work for everyone.... but theres always hope :) x if you need help im here for you :)

  • Alltheworldsastage

    28 February 2012 at 00:55

     
    becks1997 - 27 February 2012 at 19:45

     

    are you willing to risk it for a chocolate buiscut? you can try and speak to the teacher and specifically say please dont tell my parents, or you can keep it in and tell no one and then you won't stop. If i were you i would go for option 1. No one wants to SH and i'm sure you want help, you just need to trust yourself to find it. She probably got the other teachers involved because no one wants to see a child like that before they've even lived. It must have been hard for her to see you like that and im sure it meant the world to her that you went to her for help. Theres so many people out there who could try and help you. regrettably it doesnt work for everyone.... but theres always hope :) x if you need help im here for you :)

     

    Hey, Thanks for replying x I'm really thinking about telling her but I just know that she'll imediately try and get other people involved and get my parents involved aswell, I would ask her if I could talk to her and make her promis not to tell anyone but then if she thinks my life's in danger then I think she would still tell someone :S She got the teachers involved because they had to know in order to try and get counselling but I said I didn't want it and then I managed to act fine and really happy around those teachers in order to make them think nothing was wrong and it worked. But now this favourite teacher thinks i'm fine because I was acting but she doesn't know that i'm dying inside :s xx

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