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  • blueberryGirl

    26 December 2011 at 19:23

    scared of Asian/muslim men

     

     a few years ago i was gang raped by a group of asian muslim men that had groomed my freind and where trying to groom me.. but i dont want to talk about that part... 

    the problem is  now im really scared of asian men. I KNOW not everyone is the same and ive met some that are really nice...  and im not scared if they arent muslims.. but before I know if they are safe.. im automatically scared of them. 

    its worst if they have an accent or talk to me in a certain way... by saying that i WILL do something thy tell me to.

    there was these two asian men that staked me the other year and one kept saying that I WILL let him take me to lunch, and saying he KNOWS i  will be is 'freind'   it scared me and upset me so much... but i didnt know what to do about it.   then there was this other guy that followed me home and insisted i gave him my phone number.. and i didnt want to say no incase he attacked me.. and also he knew where i lived...  so i had to give him my number.. he said hed take me to the theater or something.. and i thoguth that maybe he was just being nice..  .  so i just egnored them and hoped he didnt come to my house..  ive seen im sometimes but i just blank him..  

    I have autism and i cant judge peoples motives or tell i im in danger.. i just automatically trust everyone and expect the best in them.. but usually end up in trouble from it...   but then he sent me texts about being naked and liking being all wet

    its just that when i see an asian man and he talks like the men that raped me talk, then im scared that hes a rapist or something.  

    I have seen on the news and documentries about groups of asian men here in the north that look for young white girls to groom. 

    even though i know that not everyone is the same, I still get really scared if i have to walk past one in the street or something.   

    Also.. they allways make eye contact with me and smile at me and one time one guy followed me around in his car as I was walking on the pavement and he kept asking me where i was going... I told him to leave me alone and tried to egnore him.. but i was so scared that he would pull up infront of me and jump out the car and grab me and pull me in it and lock me in.

    I really do feel like its MY fault that these men seem atracted to me.  I think I must look really innocent and neive and available or something.. or i do something wrong. I cant help it. I think its just becuase of my autism that they seem to pray on me... but I cant help thinking that im doing something stupid and obvious and putting myself in danger

    or maybe im just being paranoid and racist. 

    i dont know.   anyway.. thanks for reading. 

     

     

     
  • FiFi2785

    07 January 2012 at 16:10

     

     hi 

    Dont worry i'm muslim and i'm asian but i really dont want to be asian cuz of the stuff they do i would surgest u go and talk to some one dont go out to late etc 
  • greywolf

    07 January 2012 at 23:56

     

    hiyaa not asian/muslim ppl are bad i have asian friends and my boyfriend asian and my d auntie muslim they not bad they really kind and friendly but i think ur scared of them just think that not all of them are bad and nasty but they caring and kind just remember that ok

    and go and tell someone ok if ur scared out of ur mind ok sweetie

    from greywolf
  • fluffysockss

    18 January 2012 at 21:27

     

    hey blueberry :)

    i also know what you mean, however i'm also asian too. i find men/boys in groups quite scary myself, howearver the races don't make a difference to me. i understand that you had extremely bad experiences with some asian men but that doesn't mean that you should let this restrict you from seeing everything else that's in the world.

    i think you are still recovering from what happened with these men, but you should always remember that everybody is not the same and we are all unique, and every race has a minority of bad people in them too. i think that you should carry on ignoring these boys who say these things to you and hopefully they should stop. cos sometimes they say things like that to me too, i just ignore them and carry on walking like i haven't heard them.

    and it's not just you being paranoid or racist, and it's certainly not your fault!! sometimes people just act a certain way because they were brought up that way. i think you're very good and clever for ignoring them :)

    p.s did you tell anyone about what they did to you?? they deserve proper punishment for that so if you haven't told someone i think it would be a good idea for you to tell someone close to you :)
  • sunnee

    21 January 2012 at 20:42

     
    FiFi2785 - 07 January 2012 at 16:10

     

     hi 

    Dont worry i'm muslim and i'm asian but i really dont want to be asian cuz of the stuff they do i would surgest u go and talk to some one dont go out to late etc 

     

     same !!!
  • xMuffinx

    22 January 2012 at 18:22

     

     Same, no offence, but theres some way how they look at you. Im not being racist or nufin, but i get it the same. i dont know what to do.
  • AnticsHB15

    24 January 2012 at 20:32

     

    Don't worry, it's not all muslim/asian men. The gang who raped you were none other than stupid. They're not muslims if they rape you, it will be going against their beliefs . Then again there are many bad muslims out there, and you just have to stay clear of them. there's a very low chance of it happening again, just be with a group of mates instead of one, and don't go along with anyone who you don't know. Not just asians ANYONE. Hope tis helped

    Hatiah xx
  • Musicjunkie

    26 January 2012 at 17:10

     

     Me question how do you know if they are Muslim? 
  • Sal2244

    28 April 2012 at 21:52

     

    Hello I am Asian and Dont worry I dont really find you racist.Because of your bad incident I can understand why you are scared.If those bad people trouble you again talk to your school consueller or the police. I think you should call the police now because stalking is already a bad signal and it can be worse so I hope you the best for your future and Hope your safe. I am also sorry for that incident and I hope you the best to get over the incident I know it is not easy but One day I know you can do it!  ^_^
  • femaleboxer

    06 August 2012 at 18:26

     

    hey hun,

    i don't know what to say but i really want to reply this it brought a tear to my eye literally! Those bunch of lads that raped you and ur friend are vile there disgusting and deserve to go rot in jail  i've heard of this alot! your not  the first.  it's not ur fault it's THEIRS i can't stop you from being scared but what i can tell you is not all muslim men are like that those were disgusting pedo's. tbh i'm a british muslim girl and i know a lot of muslim men both asian and middle eastern  and sometimes they scare the living out of me to :/  some.... but just remeber it's not ur fault! did you tell anyone what they did? they desreve to rot in jail and in islam if you do rape a girl and ur muslim...  it's classed as a major sin! and they will be punished  i don't mean to sound religious or stupid but it's true and i'm sorry to hear what happened i hoped i wasen't just waffeling on and helped :) x
  • robinhood

    24 August 2012 at 10:59

     

    all men come in good and bad

    anyway im an asian and muslim but im not a man

    its a bit offensive writing the muslim bit anyway its ur opinion

    not all asians are muslims
  • Bex9213

    24 August 2012 at 20:52

     

    That sounds awfull! You are doing nothing wrong,these men are discusting and horrible, but there is no need to be scared. You just need to be carefull. When you are out, just remember to stay in a public place where there are lots of people about, that means that gangs or any other people like that are less likely to to anything because there are people watching.

    If anyone dose aproche you, asian or not asian, if they ask for your number or say that they will do something to you, try being witty (smart ) about it. Say some thing like " No I'm fine, I'll pass" and walk into the neerest shop and tell an adult what has happend. Just try to relax and remember these things when your out.

    Really hope this helps! x
  • Tula123

    15 October 2012 at 20:51

     
    blueberryGirl - 26 December 2011 at 19:23

     

     a few years ago i was gang raped by a group of asian muslim men that had groomed my freind and where trying to groom me.. but i dont want to talk about that part... 

    the problem is  now im really scared of asian men. I KNOW not everyone is the same and ive met some that are really nice...  and im not scared if they arent muslims.. but before I know if they are safe.. im automatically scared of them. 

    its worst if they have an accent or talk to me in a certain way... by saying that i WILL do something thy tell me to.

    there was these two asian men that staked me the other year and one kept saying that I WILL let him take me to lunch, and saying he KNOWS i  will be is 'freind'   it scared me and upset me so much... but i didnt know what to do about it.   then there was this other guy that followed me home and insisted i gave him my phone number.. and i didnt want to say no incase he attacked me.. and also he knew where i lived...  so i had to give him my number.. he said hed take me to the theater or something.. and i thoguth that maybe he was just being nice..  .  so i just egnored them and hoped he didnt come to my house..  ive seen im sometimes but i just blank him..  

    I have autism and i cant judge peoples motives or tell i im in danger.. i just automatically trust everyone and expect the best in them.. but usually end up in trouble from it...   but then he sent me texts about being naked and liking being all wet

    its just that when i see an asian man and he talks like the men that raped me talk, then im scared that hes a rapist or something.  

    I have seen on the news and documentries about groups of asian men here in the north that look for young white girls to groom. 

    even though i know that not everyone is the same, I still get really scared if i have to walk past one in the street or something.   

    Also.. they allways make eye contact with me and smile at me and one time one guy followed me around in his car as I was walking on the pavement and he kept asking me where i was going... I told him to leave me alone and tried to egnore him.. but i was so scared that he would pull up infront of me and jump out the car and grab me and pull me in it and lock me in.

    I really do feel like its MY fault that these men seem atracted to me.  I think I must look really innocent and neive and available or something.. or i do something wrong. I cant help it. I think its just becuase of my autism that they seem to pray on me... but I cant help thinking that im doing something stupid and obvious and putting myself in danger

    or maybe im just being paranoid and racist. 

    i dont know.   anyway.. thanks for reading. 

     

     

     

     

    Dear blueberrygirl,

    I am a muslim I m a girl and I am 11 years old.

    I wuld just like to say that I will never judge you for what you have said about muslims because it is understandable because ou explained why you are scared of them because of what they tryed ot do to you and I  want to say I'm sorry for what nearly happened to you or what did happen to you but I just want to put the facts straight in every religion in every cast in every country there are people who do bad things. for example there are christian gangs and there are muslim gangs there is no religion country or cast in the world where there aren't bad people so in every religion and in ever cast and in every country there are bad people there will not be one country in the world that is full of nice people.
  • Tula123

    15 October 2012 at 20:59

     
    xMuffinx - 22 January 2012 at 18:22

     

     Same, no offence, but theres some way how they look at you. Im not being racist or nufin, but i get it the same. i dont know what to do.

     

    Dear xMuffinx,

    what ever faith and religion you are I don't know but how would you like it if I said people in your religion give me thise certain look. I don't think you would like it so please don't judge us muslims and by the way I have brothers who only smile but not at strangers who they dont know but  only at  me and people who they do know so dont judge us muslims and make sure your facts are right before you type on your key board because it sounds like your speaking about all the muslim because you didn't say some muslims so dont judge us.
  • mia6

    17 October 2012 at 19:10

     

    hi

    plz dont be scared i am 10 years old and i am muslim u should not cope with this alone u have to tell someone u did the rright thing: to ignore them but still u have to tell ppl because it might get worse

    hope this helps

    mia2345 xxxxxx

    p.s. please try not to worry.

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