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Topic I hate the way I look 

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20/9/11 10.39am 

I hate the way I look 

I hate the way i look, i hate my size, i hate my curves, i hate my height, i hate my face. It really gets me down, I have do as much exercise as i can without getting behind with school work. I eat a lot healthier than my friends yet they are a lot thinner than me. I am constantly cutting down what I eat and sometimes exercise until my body aches too much to continue. Yet the weight wont shift! How come I have to spend my days exercising and eating less when all my friends have the perfect size and do no where near as much as me?! I really hate it and I hate going out to meet new people or wearing shorts at school etc. I wish i could be happy with my body and be able to enjoy myself without feeling like this. I spend about 90% of my time thinking of my weight.

Amy x

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Sam 

28/9/11 10.39am 

Hi Amy,

It’s really good to hear from you and I’m concerned, as it seems like you’re having a tough time. It sounds as though you hate a lot about the way you look and that you’re trying to change your shape and size by exercising and watching what you eat.

I get the feeling that you’re comparing yourself to other people and feel that they are a perfect size without doing as much. Everyone is different and it’s normal for people’s bodies to work in different ways.

You mentioned that you’re sometimes exercising until you ache too much to carry on. Exercise is a healthy part of life but it’s really important to make sure that it doesn’t damage your health. Perhaps you could have a think about talking to your doctor about healthy eating and exercise.

It might also be useful for you to have a look at the NHS Five a Day webpage, it gives lots of information and advice about healthy eating. 

I can hear that you’d like to be able to enjoy yourself without worrying about your weight and how you look and I’m wondering whether you’d like to look at the information and advice on the How you look page.

How would you feel about coming to talk to a ChildLine counsellor about how you see yourself?  You can talk to a counsellor free on 0800 1111, chat online or send an email.  I know that they’d really like to help support you with what you’re going through.

Thank you for writing to me.

Take care,

Sam

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