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26/11/11 12.17am 

I want to look like her 

I have a friend who is really thin and I have eating problems already and I just want to look like her but I know that when I don't eat it is damaging me. I feel really bad because all I want is to be thin like her. I'm sort of jealous of her and how people keep telling her how thin she is. I don't know what to do because I know that I should be eating but I want to lose weight too. Help me!

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Sam 

8/12/11 10.33am 

Hi there

Thank you for your letter. From what you have said it sounds like you’re not happy with your body. You talk about wanting to lose weight and be thin like your friend. Everyone is a unique individual with totally different body shapes. As long as you’re healthy it’s ok to be whatever weight you are.

You talk about people telling your friend she is thin, but this doesn’t necessarily mean they think she looks good.

Although you’ve talked about wanting to lose weight you have also said that you know that by not eating you are damaging your body.  It’s really important to eat a balanced diet with lots of fruit and vegetables to ensure you stay healthy. You could have a look at the B-eat website which offers information and support to young people who are concerned about eating disorders. You could also look at the Eating problems information on the Childline website.

It might be useful for you to talk to a ChildLine counsellor about how you feel, either in a 1-2-1 chat on the website or by calling on 0800 1111.

Take care,

Sam

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