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30/09/11 12.33pm 

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my friend he is becoming very aggressive and when me and others ever try approaching him about it he gets terrifying. he went to hit my friend the other day. i think he's having problems at home. he is never smiling and he always says he argues with his mam. i don't know what to do i try to speak to him he shouts and i tried to approach it in a different way yet that didn't work. i tried to be there when he's crying for him to try and speak about it to me. and sometimes he just randomly starts crying in the middle of a lesson. im really worried so please sam please i need advice your his only hope x
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Sam 

13/10/11 4.51pm 

Hi there

Thank you for writing to me and explaining about your friend and the impact this is having on you.

You mention that your friend is becoming very aggressive and even terrifying you if you try to get close to him. You also mention that he went to hit your other friend recently and you are quite worried about that. You think that he may be having difficulties at home because he never smiles and he seems to be arguing with his mum a lot.

I think he is very lucky to have such a good friend as you to care about him and worry about what is happening for him. You mention that you have tried different approaches and that you try to be there for him when he cries, and this must also be very upsetting for you, especially when you are not sure what is going on. It sounds like you are very worried about him and I wonder if you have had a chance to say this to him? Maybe even to write a short note explaining how worried you are?

You have also said that he just starts crying in the middle of lessons and I'm guessing that maybe teachers have picked this up as well. Would you feel comfortable talking to a teacher to try to help? Maybe they could arrange for someone like a counsellor to talk to him and see if there is anything they can do.

It would be a good idea for you to contact a ChildLine cousellor for a chat on 0800 1111 or sign up for an account and use the 1-2-1 online chat. You could talk about other things you could do and also how you are feeling about this. It would be really good for you to suggest this to your friend as well, and just to get him interested you might both like to look at some of the information pages in the Explore section or try out some of the games in Play. Remember, ChildLine counsellors are always here to listen to your problems and to try to help you find ways to get through it.

Best wishes,

Sam

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