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18/05/2010 17:27 

I've become pregnant 

I've been having sex with my boyfriend with protection for a while now but about a mounth ago, his condom split. he said it didn't mater but then when I wen't to the dcotor with a my tummy hurting, he said I was pregnant! I told Mum and she cryed for weeks and then said i thorught you used proctetion and i told her about what happend.  I've been lying to my friends saying that i was not pregnant. peple have been asking lots of questions and been calling me sex machine. I don't want to kill the baby with drugs but i hate myself. My boyfriend has been cutting himself for not bying a new condom, mums crying and dad's depresseid. I feel that it's alll my fault. I should never of had sex and it's got in the way of my late SATs (I missed them 'cos mum kept me at home 'cos of the pregnantthing) I don't know what to do. Please help! 

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Sam 

28/05/2010 12.00pm 

Hi There
You sound very stressed at the moment and everyone around you seems to have lots to say about what is happening to you and a lot of it seems to be negative. 

I guess it’s important to remember that this is something that is happening to you, right now your feelings are the most important.  How do you feel about being pregnant and becoming a mum?

There are lots of things for you to think about right now, your health and that of the baby.

There is also your future and how you would manage school or college. I know you have missed your SAT’s this year but this is something that you can do again even though right now you may think that it is too late.

Your mum and dad could become a good support for you so try talking to them and letting them know just how upset you are and maybe ask them to help you make the decisions that you need to.

It might seem overwhelming right now but lots of young women have faced this situation and made decisions that were the right ones for them why don’t you ask on the ChildLine message boards how they coped?

It is great that you are able to ask for support and I would encourage you to keep doing just that. Why not talk to a counsellor at Childline, you can ring 08001111 or ask for a 1-2-1 chat online,

I hope everything works out,
Take care
Sam

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