Hi
Having sex with someone is not an easy decision to make, and only you can know if it is right for you. Having been sexually abused in the past, it is not surprising that you now find it hard to trust your boyfriend. Even when he says he won’t hurt you, of course you find it hard to go through with it, because you don’t have any experience or evidence of what it will be like until it has actually happened.
No one can predict what will happen after you have sex with your boyfriend, so it is important that you have plenty of time to make up your mind. Even though this is a frustrating time, it is really important that you don’t feel under pressure from your boyfriend to have sex.
You haven’t said how old you and your boyfriend are, so I would like to remind you that the legal age for consenting to sex is 16 in the UK. This does not mean, of course, that as soon as you turn 16 you have to have sex. You can get a lot of information about Sex and Health in the Explore section, and you are welcome to talk to a ChildLine counsellor free on 0800 1111, through 1-2-1 chat or by sending an email.
Take care
Sam