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01/03/2011 6:17pm 

I'm scared about coming out about being gay 

I'm only 13 and i thought that i have been gay for about 7 months, but just today i remembered back to a day in junior infants when i started to feel different so i realised ive been gay for 9 years and only now have i come to accept it. So i dont know what to do, i want to come out to my mum and all my freinds and classmates. a few weeks ago i told my mum that my brother called me gay ( he doesnt know ) and before i could say another word she screamed "what". i have already told 2 freinds both male and they both accepted me and i want to come out so badly because i want to go out with other guys but how can i if no one knows im gay. oh also im nearly 14 should i wait till then please help

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Sam 

08/03/2011 1:22pm 

Hi there

Thanks for your letter. A lot of young people find it very difficult to come out, especially to their parents and school. You mentioned that that you were thinking of waiting until you were 14 - I don’t think there is any right or wrong time to come out and there is no way real of knowing how people will react. Unfortunately some people do find it hard to accept when someone is gay but it is important to remember that whether you are gay or straight you have the right to be happy and proud of who you are.  

You might find it useful to take a look at the ChildLine message boards as this is where young people can share their experience and advice and you might find it useful to see what others have found helps them. Also, please remember that ChildLine would really like to support you with this and you are welcome to contact any time using the 1-2-1 chat service (like msn), ChildLine email or by phone 0800 1111  

Another organisation that you might find useful is PACE. They offer telephone counselling for anyone with issues related to being gay, lesbian trans or bi-sexual.  They offer support to family members too. You can contact them on 0808 180 7223 or have a look at their website www.pacehealth.org.uk 

Take care

Sam

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