Hello,
Thank you for writing to me. I can hear that you’re very worried about your sister, and how she’s coping with preparing for her exams.
You and your family are trying your best to support her but it sounds like whatever you do to try and cheer her up, she gets angry with everyone. It may be that she thinks no one else would understand feeling the same way.
People can get angry for lots of different reasons, and it may be that she’s not angry with you but this is the only way she can get rid of the worry and bad feelings inside.
It sounds like these feelings are very overwhelming for her, she is constantly thinking about her exams, and feels under pressure to do well.
It can be hard to know what to do and I imagine that it can feel very hurtful when she gets angry and moans at you when all you’re doing is trying to help her. Arguing can make you both feel upset and angry but getting on together all the time isn’t always easy. I'm wondering if there is a time that you think you could talk to your sister without her getting upset with you? Perhaps just to say that you’re still there if she changes her mind.
If you don’t feel ready to talk to your sister you could talk to one of our counsellors about how you’re feeling, and what you’d like to say to her. You can ring our freephone number 0800 1111, or come online to have a 1-2-1 chat (similar to instant messenger).
There may be some useful tips in the School and college section of Explore for you to read too. The ChildLine message boards also have a School and college board. You might find it helpful to read what other young people are saying or leave a post and get advice.
If you find it helpful to talk to us, it may be something you could suggest to your sister too? We talk to lots of young people at exam time and sometimes talking about difficult thoughts and feelings can be helpful instead of keeping everything inside.
Whenever you or your sister would like to talk there will be someone here to listen.
Take care,
Sam