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18/01/2011 7:00pm 

Life 

am currently in high school year 10. i've started a new [School] this year and having trouble with the teachers and students so i dont enjoy school at all and am also missing my old mates,so when i ask my parents if they can come over or if i can over to them they so no,or that i cant even chill with any friends at all.the reseon for this is because my parents are quite strict and religous too.I never enjoy anything in life,while having my parents say no to eerything and no having much friends in school.somedays like holidays i really get bored that i think of running away thinking i can start a new life away from home and school.i;ve got seven brothers and sisters younger than me so i do most of the work with my mum.i really hate life.
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Sam 

21/01/2011 3:41pm 

Hi there

Thanks for your letter, it sounds like things at school and home are pretty hard for you at the moment, and as though you’re really missing your old school friends. 

Starting at a new school can be a big change that many people might find difficult. Perhaps it might be worthwhile talking to your parents or teachers about joining an after school club doing something you enjoy – maybe something like sports, art or drama – which could give you the chance to make some friends at your new school.

Sometimes parents can be strict, and it’s hard for young people to understand why they make the rules they make. It sounds like you have a lot of responsibility with so many brothers and sisters, which must be tough. Might you feel able to have a chat with your mum about how much you miss your old friends while you’re helping her with all the work? 

It concerns me to hear you say that sometimes you get so bored you think about running away, and that you hate life. Those sound like really heavy thoughts to be carrying with you. I know that sometimes running away can seem like a good option, but often young people who do so can put themselves at risk and end up in difficult situations. Talking about your feelings can help, so maybe you would like to email a  ChildLine counsellor, have a 1-2-1 online counselling session, or call free on 0800 1111.

Everything you say to ChildLine is confidential unless you or someone else is in danger, or someone in a position of authority (like a teacher) is hurting you, so it would be a safe place for you to talk.

Take care

Sam

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