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19/03/10 8:10pm 

Why me ? Why is it always me ? 

I don't really know how to put it. I go to grammer school in Maidstone. I like it their I supose, but when I started, I met a guy, then I met his friend and so on. Then I lost them, I don't know why, but it always happens, every time I get a new friend, some kid who anoys me and in a way picks on me always comes along and steels my friends. He did it recently, then my fuse practically blew! I got scared that I wouldn't have any friends, so I did the only thing I could. I followed the emotion that has been bursting to get out, and that is ANGER!!! It's always there, no matter what I do , and no matter what I become I am always ANGRY!!!

Sorry to bother you sam, I'm some other kid crying out for help.

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Sam 

30/03/10 3:38pm 

Thanks for your letter I'm glad you wrote in to me.

Despite what you are saying about getting angry, you have already sorted out for yourself that you have an issue with anger. It can be scary too. So pat yourself on the back first of all for doing this.

The next questionis to ask yourself,  what it is about other people that triggers off getting annoyed and angry?

Is the school you are attending a boarding school? If so could it be these angry feelings are linked with not being at home and living with your family?

If you are not at home then the new friends could be the next best thing to having someone close. But as you say, someone else takes them away from you too? Then you get angry?

It would seem you need some help with this. Do you have a school counsellor available? Maybe you could find out and talk to them if you do.

Think about talking to mum and dad as well or write stuff down for them. Anger is not a bad emotion and can be used in a good way. But it sounds as though it is is causing you some distress in your life that you need some support with.

If you like come and talk to a ChildLine counsellor in 1-2-1 online or phone 0800 1111 and together work out how you can work through some of the feelings you have.

Take care

Sam

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