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14/8/11 11.54am 

i hate my family 

you know that children got rights and children got belief in themselves and they want a good life, but my family treats me unwell and always hits me when i do something. i hate them Sam, i want to run away and they are not good family. i need to know why they always do that to me. i just hate them, i am seriously angry. thats why i got anger problems everywhere. they dont understand
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Sam 

1/9/11 11.14am 

Hello

Thank you for your letter, it’s really brave of you to tell me how things are for you at home with your family and the anger problems you have. You are right, children do have rights and noone has the right to hit you, no matter what you do, this is called physical abuse.

Your family should be there to protect you and keep you safe. You may also find helpful the information on Family relationships. You can also visit the physical abuse message board, this is a place where you can see what other people say about physical abuse.

You have mentioned that you have been thinking of running away, this could be really dangerous and you could find yourself in worse situation than you are now.  You should think seriously about this before you make your decision.  Think about where you would go and how would you survive.

There are other options and there are people that can help you and support you with the ways things are at home.  If you would like to talk further about this you can contact a ChildLine counsellor who would be happy to talk to you and explore your options. You can either call on 0800 1111, this is a free phone number or sign up for an account on the website and use the 1-2-1 online chat.

Take care

Sam

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