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To Sam 29/07/10 1:45pm	Don't know what to do dear sam, my friends have been gettin upto stuff like running across roads throwing things at the ducks at the park and writing on the ground it only started with writing things about people on the ground with stones because it would wash away in the rain but now my friend brings out permenent markers and started writing things about people so i done it too and now i feel very guilty. i dont want to tell my mum she belives there is no such thing as peir pressor please help me
Sam 9/08/10 1:30pm	Hi there and thanks for your letter. It sounds like you are worried about how you are behaving when you are with these friends. I get a lot of letters from young people about peer pressure. I know it can be really difficult to behave in the way you think is right when you are with other people. Sometimes we think we will have more friends and be one of a gang if we behave in a way that doesn't feel comfortable. It can be a difficult choice to do the right thing. I wonder what might happen if you told you friends you don't want to do this anymore? Do you have any other friends you can spend more time with? Why don't you post this problem on the ChildLine message board then you may get some advice from other young people? I hope this helps Take care Sam

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29/07/10 1:45pm

Don't know what to do

dear sam, my friends have been gettin upto stuff like running across roads throwing things at the ducks at the park and writing on the ground it only started with writing things about people on the ground with stones because it would wash away in the rain but now my friend brings out permenent markers and started writing things about people so i done it too and now i feel very guilty. i dont want to tell my mum she belives there is no such thing as peir pressor please help me

Sam

9/08/10 1:30pm

Hi there and thanks for your letter.

It sounds like you are worried about how you are behaving when you are with these friends. I get a lot of letters from young people about peer pressure. I know it can be really difficult to behave in the way you think is right when you are with other people.

Sometimes we think we will have more friends and be one of a gang if we behave in a way that doesn't feel comfortable. It can be a difficult choice to do the right thing.

I wonder what might happen if you told you friends you don't want to do this anymore? Do you have any other friends you can spend more time with?

Why don't you post this problem on the ChildLine message board then you may get some advice from other young people?

I hope this helps

Take care

Sam

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