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30/12/2010 9:28pm 

14 and too scared to come out! 

I am having a hard time at the moment! I know that im gay, but i can't cope being gay. I am really scared of telling my friends and family, although once when we came back from a trip i burst into tears, with alot of pursading i came out to my parents, my parents thought it was fine although my mum cryed. Its now been a year and i think they've forgot what i have sed . I can't stand to tell them again, especially my grandparents because there always saying that all the girls like me and asking whether i have a girlfriend yet!! I really don't want to come out at school aswell, cus all the guys are always calling me gay and nasty things although my close friends will take it ok cus one of them is bi. I always feel so negative and sad at home, and feel like im a complete weirdo. I am so deserted and i desperatly need help!! PLEASE SAM
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Sam 

13/01/2011 3:30pm 

Hi there

Thanks for sending in your letter, and for sharing how you are feeling.

You should be very proud of the steps you have already taken. For many young people, just accepting to themselves that they are gay can be a very difficult first step. You have done this and had the courage to talk to your parents too.

Some families can find it hard to understand what they are being told, and it may take them a long time to fully accept who you are, unfortunately some may never properly understand.

As a young person, being gay can feel like a lonely place. It can seem like you are different from everyone else but this doesn’t make you a weirdo. There are lots of gay people out there and at one point or another it’s likely that many of them have felt exactly the way you feel now. You might find it helpful to have a look at Young Stonewall.

Talking about your feelings can really help. If you wanted you could talk to a ChildLine counsellor, through the ChildLine website, by email, or 121 chat (like MSN) or give them a ring on 0800 1111.

Take care

Sam

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