Hi there
Thanks for your letter telling me about your new friend.
It sounds like you are really happy to have made a new friend. You have done really well to explain your relationship with this man, and the concerns and confusion you feel. However, the way this man is behaving towards you is wrong. Sometimes adults can make young people feel special as a way of gaining their trust in order to lead on to having sex. It sounds like this man may have started this by befriending you and kissing you.
It sounds like you may want to continue seeing this man and I am concerned that your friend is a man who is an adult and you are under 16. This means that it would be illegal for this man to have any form of sexual contact with you. It is good that you told him to stop when he was doing something that you didn’t like. I want you to know that you have done nothing wrong and are not in any trouble.
It is understandable that you feel confused. Sometimes having feelings like these can be a way of making you stop and think and check things out and maybe get some help or advice. It is also important that you keep yourself safe and talking to and being with strangers can put you in an unsafe situation. It may feel as if this man is not a stranger any more but this is another way for him to gain your trust. I am wondering how you would feel talking to your friends or family about this relationship.
It would be good if you could talk about this with a ChildLine Counsellor. They are there to help you explore and understand your feelings. You can talk to ChildLine free on 0800 1111, go into a 1-2-1 chat via the website or send them an email. What you say to ChildLine is kept confidential unless they are worried that you or someone else is in real danger.
Take care
Sam