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11/02/10 7:45pm 

My friends hate me 

my friends hate me for something my boyfriend said, and now everyone hates me and I have tried to say sorry but they wont accept and it really hurts. because some of them I don't know what I have done to them and now all I do at lunch is sit in a music room alone feeling sorry for my self and I'm feeling as if it would be better if I was dead

thank you for helping me it means a lot

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Sam 

18/02/10 9:00am 

Hello there

It is really sad to read that your friends have decided to listen to your boyfriend and not you.

It would seem as though your friends mean alot to you is that right?

Your boyfriend who has caused you alot of distress appears not to be supporting you at all. It doesn't sound either as though he is very sorry about what he has done or said?

Talking to a teacher or a school counsellor may help you explore ways in which you can go and speak to your friends.

You could ask the person if they would sit in with you and your friends so they can help you all sort things out.

In the meantime you may like to give ChildLine a call so that you could discuss what you would really like to say to your friends when you see them.

A counsellor is available for free on 0800 1111 or you can log in to a chat session via the website.

It might be useful for you to post a message on the ChildLine message boards to see what other young people think you should do.

Good luck
Sam

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