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To Sam 

15/02/10 2:30am 

Finding friends 

I think one of my "friends" might be turning everyone I know against me. I'm really quiet and find it hard to make friends. I've known this girl for a while, but it turns out she can be really manipulative and she once admitted to liking power. I went to her party, but I'm not very good at parties and made myself look really bad by not talking to anyone. All my messages are being ignored.  It's such a mess and I don't know what to do. I can never make friends who like me, I'm too boring and quiet. 

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Sam 

19/02/10 12:50pm 

Thanks for writing in

Reading your letter it seems you think that no one likes you because you are boring and quiet. Because of this you find it hard to make friends. You say that you think people are turning against you.

It's not always easy to make friends, but it does help and makes life easier to mix with others that we have the same interests in though.

That means that you can choose to be around people that you like, and know they like the same things.

Friends are people who we want to be around because we like them and can get on with. So could it be that you just don't have anything in common with these people?

Is there someone that you do get on with? Maybe ask them why do they think people are ignoring you.

There must be others in your class at school or college who you like and can find out whether you share the same interests.

Have a look at the ChildLine message boards and try posting a message to see what others think.

Good luck

Sam   

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