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Hi Sam,

I moved to a new school because my family moved to the other side of the country. But I am really unhappy.

Everyone knows each other and don't want to be friends with me. Every break and lunch time I sit on my own in the library. Its has helped me read all the Harry Potter books though! Anyway, I really hate it at my new school. I have epilepsy and some times I wake up to go to school and wish that I would have a fit before I go to school so that I won't have to go to school for a couple of days.

I have told my Mummy and she listens. But I feel really bad telling her because she has already got lots of problems with money and stuff. I dont like telling her because I know it makes her really sad and I dont like seeing my Mummy sad.

I feel so sad now :(

What should I do?

Lots of love xxx

Hi there

Thanks for you letter and telling me about what is going on for you. It sounds like things are really difficult for you at school and you are feeling unhappy there.

It sounds like spending time on your own at school is upsetting for you. Although at first it may seem that people don’t want to make new friends, it can take time to get settled in and for friendships to develop. Some young people find that social clubs, such as after school clubs or youth clubs are a good place to meet new people make new friends. Perhaps you could have a look if there are any social clubs in your school or around where you live.

It can be really tough when we start something new and it feels like everyone already knows each other. ChildLine hears from lots of young people who feel the way you do and you might find it useful to read more about other young people’s experience  on the School message board.

I can hear that your mum supports you with this, but sometimes you don’t want to talk to her about it. I’m wondering what it would be like for you to talk to a teacher you trust about how things are for you? Your teachers are there to make sure you are safe and happy in school and they could offer you both emotional support and practical support with making friends in school.

ChildLine is always here to support you and you can get in touch and talk to one of our counsellors anytime, either by telephone on 0800 1111, 1-2-1 online chat or by email.

Take Care

Sam