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25/08/10 11:30pm 

Foster parents 

Hi, I live with my brith family at weekends and  a foster family during the week  but I don't get along with my foster family my friends come round so we can hang out and I have to take my foster brother with me I want to run away but when it comes I can't..
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02/09/10 11:53am 

Sam 

Hi

Thanks for writing to me.

It sounds like you are having a difficult time living between two families, especially since you’ve said you don’t get along with your foster family. It also sounds like you feel it's unfair having to take your foster brother along when you want to hang out with your friends.

Have you tried talking to your foster parents or your birth parents or even your social worker about how you are feeling? It might be an idea to do this as soon as you can before your situation gets worse.

I'm guessing that you don't get on too well with your foster brother, but it does sound like you need your own time and space. It has to be difficult finding space for yourself, living between two families. Think of things you can do by yourself, that don't involve anyone but you.

Are you starting back to school, and if so, do you think you could maybe talk to the school counsellor about how you are feeling and what's happening? It’s important you get support.

I'm concerned that you are saying you want to run away. This might seem like a good idea to you at the moment if you are feeling under pressure. In reality, running away is a very dangerous thing to do. You can place yourself at greater risk. Where would you stay? How would afford to buy food, keep warm and safe?

Think about coming and talking to a ChildLine counsellor on 0800 1111 or having a 1-2-1 chat? Together with the counsellor explore some of your options and find answers to your worries.

Take care

Sam

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