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Hi Sam,

Well ive been on here before and it did sort out all my problems with me ex-boyfriend, and i moved on and found another one, but my ex-boyfriend callum came back. I fell for him again and i broke up with jack for him. We went out again for a little bit, but he wouldnt let me tell anyone, and that really didnt help, then one evening i didnt go out with him, his friend, and my friend katie. So all of them went but me, when he got back, i was trying to talk to him through messaging but i just could tell that he liked katie. I felt like my life was over. I didnt want to live anymore and then because i was ignoring him he told me to forget us. The next couple days later he is going out with my friend jade. Hes been putting pictures up of them to kissing and putting as his statuses i love jade. He knows that it is getting to me, ive let him get to me the second time aswell. I know that i will move on again, but what if he comes back and i fall again and brake, he just has that power over me. Please help.

Thankyou, Lily.

Hi there

Thank you for your message to me. I’m glad that ChildLine has helped you in the past and that you have decided to come back to me and tell me how you feel. 

It sounds like you feel that your ex-boyfriend has some type of power over you and that you are worried that you might end up going back to him if he asked you. I can tell that this boy has really hurt you in the past and is still hurting you now. You have told me that how he has acted has made you feel like you don’t want to live anymore.  I am really concerned that you feel this way and I’m glad you are talking about how you feel.

It sounds like you could do with some support and to talk through these feelings of not wanting to live. It also sounds like you don’t feel that you would be able to keep yourself away from a situation, where you know you might get hurt in this way again. 

How would you feel about talking to a ChildLine counsellor about these things? They could help you to think of ways to not allow this boy to have power over you anymore.  They could also listen and support you through your feelings around not wanting to live. You can talk to a ChildLine counsellor by calling for free on 0800 1111 or by signing up for an account and using online 1-2-1 chat or sending ChildLine an email.

Thanks again for you message.

Take care

Sam