Hello
Thanks for writing to me. It sounds like you are anxious about beginning another relationship after feeling so heartbroken. It’s perfectly understandable to feel this way and it’s safe to think about your feelings and options before making a decision.
You still feel hurt about your relationship ending and I’m wondering have you been able to think about how it ended? Whilst it’s really painful it can also be good to step back and look at what worked and also what didn’t work. Has your last relationship changed how you feel about yourself or what you look for in a partner?
Being able to look at your expectations of yourself and other people might help you make a decision about being ready to meet someone new. It can be hard when something ends, but it's also important to remember that meeting new people and starting relationships can be a sign that you’re ready to move on.
It’s also good to get to know people as friends, so maybe you could meet this person as a friend to begin with and then make a decision about changing your relationship to something more when you know him a bit better.
Lots of young people are trying to make difficult decisions – you may find it useful to look on the Sex and relationships message board to see how other young people are coping with similar situations. I hope some of this helps and that you’re able to make a decision that helps you move on and feel happier. You can can also contact a ChildLine counsellor by phone on 0800 1111, email or have an online 1-2-1 Chat for help and advice.
Take care
Sam