Thanks for your letter. Recently I've received a lot of letters about not having a boyfriend or girlfriend and asking when is the right time to have one.
The answers is that there is no magic age or time. It’s normal to start developing feelings, such as having a crush or fancying someone as you get older. It happens at different times and ages for everyone.
It’s important to find ways of being relaxed and enjoying the company of someone that you might like. If you are not sure about being alone with them just yet, perhaps try to organise for the two of you to meet up with a group of friends. This might help you build up your confidence when you are around that person.
At some stage you might want to let the person know that you like them and would like to be more than friends. You could try asking if they want to go out with you sometime alone but tell them there’s no pressure if they don’t. You could also show them with your body language, such as sitting next to them and being extra chatty.
Telling someone your feelings for them can be a risk to your friendship but if you really like them it may be worth the chance that they’ll say yes.
Good luck and take care
Sam