Hello,
Thank you for your letter. It sounds like there is a lot going on for you at school right now. I wanted to tell you that I’m really glad that you have a teacher at your school who is supporting you and who has helped you. I think it is also great that he has an open door policy for you. Trying to sort things out for yourself is always a good idea but sometimes we do need a little help dealing with some situations.
I hear you say that this boy at school has been trying to get you to flirt with him over text and meet up. He is saying that, by you doing these things, it will impress him. Although you used to fancy him, it sounds to me like you are now feeling scared about the situation and you don’t want to, “flirt dirty” with him. I want you to know that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do and this boy cannot make you. You are your own person and you can make your own decisions.
The fact that you said you don’t feel safe in the class with this boy is worrying. You have the right to feel safe at school. I think you have been very sensible in thinking about telling your teacher about what is going on with this boy. I also think it's great that you are talking to a friend about it.
If you are feeling scared about being in a class with this boy and feeling harassed, then you have the right to talk to the teacher about it. Your school has an obligation to keep you safe. Your Year Head has already told you to speak to him anytime - now would be a good time to tell him what been happening and ask for his help.
If you are worried about what to say, or there is something else making you hesitate to go to your teacher, you can always contact ChildLine and talk it through with a counsellor. You can talk to a counsellor by calling free on 0800 1111, by sending an email or through 1-2-1 chat online (like msn).
Good luck,
Sam