Hi there
I'm really glad you have written to me about this as it is something that troubles lots of families and I know there are many young people out there feeling frightened about what happens at home.
In an ideal world nobody would argue and we would all discuss our differences in a friendly way. Life however is not like that and arguments do happen especially in homes where there are all sorts of things to worry about, things like work, money, shopping, and these are only a few. So the odd argument is to be expected and is normal enough. What isn't good is when one person tries to control another or when violence happens - this is wrong.
It's great that you can recognise your feelings and are able to talk to your friends. No matter what is happening between your mum and dad, you still have the right to be safe.
It's possible that your parents don't realise the effect that their fighting is having on you, so maybe you could try picking a quiet time at home and telling them how you feel? It can be a good idea to take yourself away when the fighting starts, maybe go up to your bedroom and listen to your ipod or use that time to phone a friend. You could also ask other young people how they deal with arguments at home by posting a question on the message boards.
The most important thing is to talk about what is happening. If you are feeling really worried, are there any adults in your life, like an aunt or a teacher, that you trust and would feel comfortable speaking to? You might find some useful information on the website The Hideout and you can always talk things over on the phone with Childline 08001111 or in the 1-2-1 chat room.
Take care and keep safe,
Sam