Hi there
Thank you so much for writing to me. I can hear you’re going through a lot at the moment and I’m really concerned that your Mum’s boyfriend is behaving in this way. This is sexual abuse and it’s against the law. From what you’ve described, I get the impression that your mum’s boyfriend knows what he’s doing is wrong and he’s making sure he hides it from your mum.
You seem frightened about what would happen if people knew about what your mum’s boyfriend was doing to you and I’m wondering who you’ve thought of telling. Perhaps you could have a think about telling an adult who you trust. What do you think it’d be like to tell your mum about what’s happening?
It sounds as though your boyfriend knows about you being sexually abused and is very angry with your mum’s boyfriend. It’s really understandable that he’d be angry and want to protect you but it’s important that he doesn’t take the law into his own hands or he could end up in trouble. Maybe you could think about talking to him about your feelings and about how you’d like him to support you in a way that feels best for you.
It’s really important to let you know that what your mum’s boyfriend is doing is not your fault. If you ever feel unsafe, you have the right to call 999 for emergency help and you have the right to report what he’s doing to the police.
I can tell that this has been a really difficult and worrying time for you and you don’t need to cope with this on your own anymore. It’s your choice about what you feel would work best for you and it might help to talk through your options with a counsellor as well as getting some emotional support with what you’ve been through. ChildLine can be here for you and you can talk to a counsellor in confidence, either by calling free on 0800 1111, or sign up and send an email or have a 1-2-1 chat online.
It takes a lot of courage to speak out and you’ve taken a really brave step by telling me about what you’re going through. I hope that things at home get better for you and that you get the support you need.
Take care
Sam