My stepdad beats me

To Sam 01/05/2011 2:54pm	My stepdad beats me my stepdad throws me down the stairs, squeezs my arm until in has no blood getting to it, when I tell my mum she says its my fault or he wouldn't do something like that. I have the bruises to prove that he does it but she still don't believe me. I just don't no what to do anymore because I'm in to much pain and he just don't stop:/
Sam 06/05/2011 7:29pm	Hi Thanks for getting in touch, it sounds like things are really hard for you right now and that you don’t feel very safe at home. What your step-dad is doing to you is called physical abuse and it is illegal and wrong. You said that your mum says it’s your fault but I want you to know that it is not your fault. Whatever happens, there is no excuse for an adult to hurt you. Also, your mum has a legal duty to protect you and keep you safe, so it is very wrong of her not to listen to what you say. I wonder how you feel now that you know that? I am concerned because you said that your step-dad has left bruises, and that you are in a lot of pain at the moment. It is really important that you keep yourself safe. Remember, you can always call 999 and ask for the police or an ambulance if you ever don’t feel safe. You said that you don’t know what to do, and that you would like it to stop. You have done a very brave and good thing writing to me. Speaking to someone you trust, is the first step to making things better. I wonder how you would feel coming to talk to one of the counsellors here at ChildLine? Someone is here to listen to you, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and we would really like to support you with this. You don't have to go through this on your own. Take care Sam

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