Hi Sam,
I really dont know what to do, I am 15 and turning 16 very soon. Me and my mum argue almost all of the time, when we are not arguing we are like a well oiled motor, all working together hapily, having a nice time but then something switches. It could be anything that causes it like leaving blankets unfolded in the living room, leaving dirty laundry out in our rooms, spending too much time watching TV, not doing what she asks, anything really, she will then have a go at me, it usualy starts with her raising her voice and shouting at me, she then gets more and more heated. Regretably I then argue back, we are both argumentative people, I feel that I am just trying to defend myself against her harsh words, then she will change the subject to how bad I am around the house, how much I upset her, how I never do anything for her. After I find a good time to get away I try to find my dad, I talk to him about what I am supposed to do, he usualy says something like just bite your toungue, only answer in a few words that agree with what she is saying, try explaining your problems when she has calmed down. If I try to keep quiet or do what she tells me, she finds another thing for telling me off about. But very recently things have changed even more, she now gets angry much more often, she will hold a grudge for much longer, today I fell out with her just for ano tried everything that my dad said, but none of these things seemed to work, all of a sudden my dad stopped helping me, he started shooting dirty looks at me, telling me how sellfish I am, then when i got away I heard my mum crying and speaking about how much I was hurting her and how much she has helped me and how I was just throwing it back in her face, and then she brought up other issues and started to argue with my dad, she was getting really heated, my dad just stayed calm. My parents have never hit me, taken anything too far, but the arguing is too much, what should I do, please help!!!!!
And thanks for reading my long and boring letter.