Hi there
I’m really glad you got in touch with me. Well done for being brave enough to write all this down and for explaining so clearly what’s happening at home.
It sounds like things are difficult between you and dad and that sadly, he sometimes blames you for things which are not your fault. It also seems like you feel worried and scared of what dad might do when he next gets angry.
Lots of families go through difficult times but it is never right for an adult to hit a young person or to threaten them so that they feel upset and worried.
I can see that you think living with your grandma might be better for you and I am just wondering how that might work out. I also wonder whether you have been able to talk to your grandma about what’s happening. I’m not sure how old you are but you can't leave home until you are 16, unless your parents agree to it.
I hear that mum seems to think living with gran is not such a good idea. Parents have a duty to protect their children and your mum needs to help you to feel safe at home. One idea might be to tell your mum that you sometimes feel scared when your dad gets angry and that you are wondering how the situation could be improved.
If you feel you can’t say this to your mum, maybe there’s another adult you could trust to tell. You could also talk to a ChildLine counsellor. They would listen to you and help you find a way forward. If you would like to do this, you can phone us on 0800 1111 – calls are free, or sign up to the website and have a 1-2-1 chat online, or send us an email.
Take care
Sam