Hi there
I’m so glad that you’ve written to me about this. You explained that you come from a country where parents are allowed to beat up their children. I’m really concerned to hear that you’ve been beaten up by your parents. In England (and the rest of the UK), parents aren’t allowed to harm their children and this is called physical abuse. What’s happening isn’t your fault and what your Mum is doing is against the law.
It sounds as though your mum has admitted to taking her anger out on you. It isn’t OK for her to do this. I can also hear that she’s threatening to send you back to the country you’ve moved from. These sorts of threats are also not OK. It is called emotional abuse.
If you ever feel in danger, you have the right to phone 999 for the emergency services.
What’s happening sounds really upsetting and frightening and I am concerned that you’re dealing with this on your own. Perhaps you could have a think about telling a teacher at school about what’s happening. A teacher would have a responsibility to pass on this information to keep you safe. Its sounds like, at the moment, you don’t feel you have anyone to talk to. Remember that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor. You can phone free on 0800 1111, have a 1-2-1 chat online with a counsellor or send an email.
You seem to be dealing with a lot at the moment and it sounds as though you feel that hormones are making things worse. If you think that this is becoming a problem for you, you can always see a doctor and get some medical advice. For information on your rights about seeing a doctor, you can have a look at this link for The Site - which explains about when you can see a doctor on your own and what the doctor’s rules might be about confidentiality. There’s also information on that website about hormones and Health and Wellbeing. Also, perhaps you could take a look at the ChildLine message boards. There’s a Puberty section where young people offer each other advice and support.
You’ve done really well to talk about this and remember that what’s happening is definitely not your fault.
Take care of yourself.
Sam