Hi and thanks for your message,
I’m really glad you got in touch because it sounds like things with your mum haven’t been the way you’d like them to be for a while now. It can sometimes feel like mums or dads are getting more distant when they meet someone new and sometimes this affects our relationships with them.
You’re telling me about how uncomfortable you feel about being left with your brother and sister and I can hear that this is difficult for you. The law doesn’t say when someone is old enough to be left in the house alone so your mum isn’t doing anything illegal, but that doesn’t make what she is doing right.
It sounds like you don’t feel right being at home without your mum and just having your brother and sister there so it’s important that you are listened to. It sounds like you aren’t sure how to talk to her about this – if you wanted you could talk with a ChildLine counsellor about how to bring it up with her? We can help you to decide for yourself what you’d like to say and the best way of saying it.
Perhaps you can think of another trusted adult that you might be able to talk to about this? It’s ok to need some support and like I said earlier, your mum isn’t doing anything illegal, but it’s important that you do feel safe at home and feel like you can talk to your mum. Sometimes having someone else there to help you explain yourself can be a good way of getting your message across. You could also think of writing her a letter telling her how you feel. These are all just ideas that you can think about, but you are more than welcome to talk to a counselor about this a bit more.
I hope that’s helped, but if you need to talk more then do get in touch with us either on the phone or online for a 1-2-1 chat. You might also like to look at the ChildLine message boards and leave a message so you can get support from people in similar situations.
Take care,
Sam