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Topic im gettin' abused and i need a way to live on my own or in a council house  

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15/01/2011 10:35am 

im gettin' abused and i need a way to live on my own or in a council house  

Hi I'm 15 years old and I constantly get bullied at home, bullied I mean hit and slapped and bashed around everyday and I don't know what to do I have tried killing myself with overdose but its not working. Is there any help I can leave home urgently! I heard about applying for a council house and a hostile but I don't know where to get that done I can't live in this house no more I have no one to talk to anymore I have my exams in 3months and I'm failing all subjects I'm doing now I need someone I can talk to or somewhere I can listen to my head and not be afraid in the morning or at night :( :'( help me :'(
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Sam 

27/01/2011 12:17pm 

Hello

Thank you for sending your letter to me. 

Firstly I want to tell you that what is happening to you is wrong and nobody has the right to hit you. You have the right to feel safe in your own home. 

In answer to your question, at 15 years old you would not be able to apply for a council house as the minimum age to live on your own is 16.  However, it might be worth contacting your local social services department to see what help and support they offer. Social services are responsible for keeping children and young people safe and protected from harm. I can't guarantee what action they will take but they will listen carefully to what you have to say and should involve you in decisions that affect you. You can find the telephone number in your local phone book under 'social services'. Call the office nearest to you and ask to speak to a social worker.

It seems like there are a lot of things going on for you at the moment; pressures at school and what is going on at home. Sometimes the idea of killing yourself can seem like the only way out of a situation but there are always alternatives. You can talk to a counsellor at ChildLine about other ways of coping. You can talk to a ChildLine counsellor about anything that's worrying you, by phone on 0800 1111, online chat or using ChildLine email.

Take care

Sam

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