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16/03/10 6:30pm 

I want to move away 

Hi Sam, I writing to you because i have a few problems with my mum. sometimes when she is in a good mood she is happy but when something bad happends she just blames it all on me she says 'your the one who should be showing an example to the little ones. I always try my best to behave at home. I was thinking of moving away but i didnt have money my mother never gave me pocket money and she always slapped me. what shall i do?

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Sam 

23/03/10 12:41pm 

Thanks for your letter

I suppose sometimes we can expect a lot from our mums. It's always great when mums are in a good mood and happy. But when things start getting a bit tough and tiring for them they can get a bit grouchy.

Often they can be the person we just don't want to be near or even speak to. I will say though that mum's behaviour of slapping you is not acceptable no matter how moody she is feeling.

The other side to this that mums too can expect a lot from the eldest child in a family and I'm assuming you are? It sounds as though you are a great help and support to your mum. But I don't think moving away is going to solve anything. If anything this is a really dangerous idea to have particularly if you're not very old yourself.

My suggestion would be choose a time when you and mum are alone and be brave and tell her what you are thinking and how she is making you feel. Ask her to tell you how she is feeling and how you can help one another. Maybe you could write it in a letter to her.

If this is too hard to think about doing come and talk to a ChildLine counsellor on 0800 1111 or have a 1-2-1chat online.

The counsellor will listen to what you have to say and together work out what is the best way to support you.

Have a think about this

Take care

Sam  

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