Hi there and thank you for writing your letter.
It seems like you are going through a really tough time at the moment. Everyone’s problems are important and everyone needs support sometimes, so I’m glad you wrote to me about this.
Arguing with your parents can be really tough, it can make you feel really alone and insecure at home, when home is really supposed to be the place you feel safest. Have you always argued with your mum and dad? Or was there a time when you all got on a bit better? It can be natural, when young people are in their teenage years to argue with parents. A lot is changing at this time and it can be hard for both parties to get used to that. Mums and dads usually spend the first years of your life protecting you, nurturing you and being able to do everything for you. Then as children get older and turn into young men and women, you may want more independence, time with your friends, to do things you want to do and dress the way you want to dress – never mind that your hormones are making it very difficult to control your emotions sometimes!
It’s okay and it’s a natural part of growing up to argue with your parents sometimes, however, it seems to be really getting you down. Have you thought about writing your parents a letter and explaining to them how you feel and perhaps trying to work out how you all can make some small changes so you can try to get on a little better?
Perhaps you can have a think about this and consider how you want things to be different and how you, your mum and your dad might be able to make those changes. It can show that you are very serious about wanting things to be different and can show a level of maturity too that might make your parents see you in a different light?
Perhaps these are some things you can try to think about – but if you do want to talk about this a bit more, please feel free to come online and talk to a ChildLine counsellor or phone 0800 1111.
Take care and good luck,
Sam