Hi there,
Thank you for contacting me. You say your sister always takes her anger out on you and then she is nice - it sounds like that might be really frustrating and confusing for you. It seems like you are not sure what to do as you have tried confronting her, fighting back and just laughing at her and you feel that it makes her more upset and she might then hit you again. I get the impression that this is really bothering you at the moment and I am really glad you contacted me about it - ChildLine would really like to support you. Your sister should not be taking her anger out on you in this way.
You also mentioned that your dad is always shouting and swearing and I am concerned to hear that he is always losing his temper with you and punched a hole in your kitchen door. It sounds like this might be really scary and upsetting for you and I want you to know that if you ever feel in danger or like you need help the quickest way to get it is to call 999 and ask for the police. Your dad should not be behaving in this way and I am worried that you or someone might get hurt when he does this. You said that you have had loads of bruises and I am not sure if this is from your dad or your sister. No one has the right to hit you or hurt you in any way. I think it might be a good idea for you to talk to an adult that you trust, perhaps a teacher you get on with, about what is happening at home.
I think you did really well trying to talk to your mam about it. You haven’t said what happened when you talked to her so I am wondering how you are feeling about that now? You have said that you feel like you can’t really talk to anyone about it and it sounds like that might be quite hard for you. I want you to remember that if you ever want to talk ChildLine is always here and you can speak to a counsellor by phone on 0800 1111 or using 1-2-1 chat (like msn).
It sounds like you might be worried about your sister as you say that she has been going out getting drunk, tried smoking and also cut herself. I wonder what it would be like for you to talk to your sister maybe when she seems like she is in a good mood, and just tell her a bit about how you are feeling. It sounds like she might have some stuff on her mind too at the moment and maybe you could tell her about ChildLine and let her know that if she ever wants to talk to someone, we are here.
Remember that calls to ChildLine are free, even from mobiles, and will not show up on your phone bill.
Take care
Sam