Hi there
Thanks for getting in touch to talk to me about this. You’ve talked about things happening at home that seem to be upsetting and difficult to cope with. You’ve also told me about how this is affecting your own feelings.
You explained that there is no violence in your family, but I’m worried that you feel like your family take their anger out on you. If you ever feel scared by the way people are treating you it may be a good idea to phone ChildLine on 0800 1111, or have a 1-2-1 chat with a counsellor online about what has been happening.
It sounds like you care a lot about your family, and worry about hurting them. You’ve told me you can’t help feeling this way – it is ok to feel angry with people that you love and doesn’t mean that you don’t love them. It seems as though you’d like to help your mum when she feels stressed, maybe you could tell her that. If you find talking hard you could think about writing down what you want to say.
I think it is important that you have other ways to let out how you are feeling rather than bottling your anger up. Talking to ChildLine is one way you could share your anger with someone else. Some people find doing something active like running, or exercising helps them release anger. I think you might also find it helpful to look at the Beat anxiety page of the ChildLine website where there is a lot of information about coping with anxiety.
If you are feeling isolated it may help to find out how other young people feel, and how they have coped with similar experiences. Have a look at the Home and Family Relationship threads on the message boards, perhaps you could post your own message for other young people to reply to.
If you would like to talk more about any of the things you’ve told me, or about what you would like to happen, then you can talk to a ChildLine counsellor either on the phone on 0800 1111, or by having an online chat on the website.
Take care
Sam