Hi there
Thanks for writing in to tell us what is going on for you at the moment. It sounds like things are really difficult between you and your mum and this is making your home life very tough, especially because you are also scared of her.
You have explained what happened when you were kicked out of the house and it seems like this incident has made you want to do something about the situation. From what you are saying things are very strained at the moment between you and your mum and as you rightly say, even though your mum is always stressed about work, this is no reason to hit you and make you feel bad about yourself.
It is not ok for anybody to hit you or hurt you, particularly if they leave bruises, cuts or marks on you. I’m also concerned to hear you say that you mum kicked you out of the house, as this could have put you in a risky situation. It is reassuring to hear that you could have stayed at your friend’s house, but it isn’t acceptable for your mum to kick you out as she has responsibility for you as a young person.
You may want to consider contacting social services to let them know about the situation at home because you say you don’t feel safe. Every young person has the right to feel safe at home, and social services are there to protect children and young people and to make sure that home is a safe environment. Some people think that social services always take children away from the home, but that doesn’t always happen. More often than not they will work with the family in the home, giving support to try and help make things better for everybody involved.
It might be a good idea to contact ChildLine to talk to a counsellor a little bit more about what is going on at home. They will be able to give you more information on social services and how you could contact them if you wanted them to. Remember that ChildLine is confidential so they won’t tell anybody what you tell them, unless you are in a life-threatening situation.
There are different ways to contact ChildLine. You can call them on 0800 1111 (which is free to call, and doesn’t come up on phone bills), you can contact them by 1-2-1 online chat or you can send them an e-mail. I hope this helps.
Take care
Sam