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To Sam 6/9/11 12.54pm	Dad Ive found it very hard comming onto childline, and at the moment, i only have the courage to send childline a letter, Me and my dad are always fighting, not just silly ones, but sometimes they get really scary, he never hurts me, but thats not to say he will, although i wouldnt imagine so. He tries to make everything i say terrible, i cant talk about anything to anyone, he blames it all on me :( i also have a brother and mum, i love my mum loads, and am very close, but they always seem to be about my brother. he alhas serious depression and other problams, (i will try and pluck up the courage to talk to a 1-2-1) they seem to completely ignore me, and its terrible, but mainly its my dad, he makes me feel so small, so terrible, he makes me feel like i shouldnt have been born sometimes, please help thanks
Sam 15/9/11 11.27am	Hi there I’m so glad that you’ve found the courage to write to me and I can tell that you’re finding it quite difficult to find the courage to contact ChildLine at the moment. You’ve already done really well just by writing this letter. From what you’ve described, I can tell that you’re feeling really afraid of the fights between you and your dad and it sounds like you’re wondering whether he might ever hurt you. It seems like you don’t think he would but just to let you know that if you ever do feel in danger, you have the right to dial 999 for emergency help. It isn’t OK for you to be made to feel like you might get hurt. If somebody makes you believe that they could hurt you, this is classed as emotional abuse and it’s really wrong for anyone to do that. I get the impression that you feel like your dad tries to turn around whatever you’re saying and make it seem like it’s your fault and that makes you feel as though you can’t talk about things to anybody. You mentioned that you have a good relationship with your mum but it sounds like a lot of the focus in on your brother. In your letter, you’ve been really clear about what you’re going through and I’m wondering how you’d feel about perhaps writing a note to your mum to let her know how you’re feeling? Perhaps it might be a good idea to think of ways of writing to her in a way that you dad couldn’t see by accident, maybe even an email if your mum has her own personal account. It really seems like you don’t feel important to your family at the moment and I’m concerned to hear you say that you sometimes feel you shouldn’t have been born. I think you’ve been so brave to write to me and it’d be great if you felt able to have a 1-2-1 online chat with a counsellor. You could also contact ChildLine by email or speak to someone free by calling 0800 1111. You’ve taken a really big first step and I hope that things start to feel better soon. Thanks again for your letter. I’m sure that there’ll be other young people in similar situations who have also been really helped by you taking the time to write. Take care Sam

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6/9/11 12.54pm

Dad

Ive found it very hard comming onto childline, and at the moment, i only have the courage to send childline a letter,

Me and my dad are always fighting, not just silly ones, but sometimes they get really scary, he never hurts me, but thats not to say he will, although i wouldnt imagine so.

He tries to make everything i say terrible, i cant talk about anything to anyone, he blames it all on me :(

i also have a brother and mum, i love my mum loads, and am very close, but they always seem to be about my brother. he alhas serious depression and other problams, (i will try and pluck up the courage to talk to a 1-2-1)

they seem to completely ignore me, and its terrible, but mainly its my dad, he makes me feel so small, so terrible, he makes me feel like i shouldnt have been born sometimes, please help

thanks

Sam

15/9/11 11.27am

Hi there

I’m so glad that you’ve found the courage to write to me and I can tell that you’re finding it quite difficult to find the courage to contact ChildLine at the moment. You’ve already done really well just by writing this letter.

From what you’ve described, I can tell that you’re feeling really afraid of the fights between you and your dad and it sounds like you’re wondering whether he might ever hurt you. It seems like you don’t think he would but just to let you know that if you ever do feel in danger, you have the right to dial 999 for emergency help. It isn’t OK for you to be made to feel like you might get hurt. If somebody makes you believe that they could hurt you, this is classed as emotional abuse and it’s really wrong for anyone to do that.

I get the impression that you feel like your dad tries to turn around whatever you’re saying and make it seem like it’s your fault and that makes you feel as though you can’t talk about things to anybody.

You mentioned that you have a good relationship with your mum but it sounds like a lot of the focus in on your brother. In your letter, you’ve been really clear about what you’re going through and I’m wondering how you’d feel about perhaps writing a note to your mum to let her know how you’re feeling? Perhaps it might be a good idea to think of ways of writing to her in a way that you dad couldn’t see by accident, maybe even an email if your mum has her own personal account.

It really seems like you don’t feel important to your family at the moment and I’m concerned to hear you say that you sometimes feel you shouldn’t have been born. I think you’ve been so brave to write to me and it’d be great if you felt able to have a 1-2-1 online chat with a counsellor. You could also contact ChildLine by email or speak to someone free by calling 0800 1111. You’ve taken a really big first step and I hope that things start to feel better soon.

Thanks again for your letter. I’m sure that there’ll be other young people in similar situations who have also been really helped by you taking the time to write.

Take care

Sam

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