Hi there
It’s good to hear from you and I'm glad you got in touch.
It sounds like the way your dad is has a huge impact on you and your family. The health of parents can be a really big worry for many young people especially when it has an impact on their personality. Many people who drink in the way that your dad does, find it hard to see that they have a problem and don’t understand the damage they are doing.
It sounds like you and your sisters have tried really hard to stop your dad and to help your mum’s stress. It sounds like it’s also hard for your mum to able to accept support at the moment and sometimes it can be hard to ask for help. Your mum is very lucky to have you there to help her out. At the same time it’s very important to remember that adults are responsible for their own actions and that it’s always okay to ask for help yourself.
It sounds like your dad has a real problem with alcohol and that it’s really taking a toll on all of you at home. Have you ever talked to your mum about your idea about calling Drinkline? There is a lot of help and support out there for people who are alcoholics and NHS Drinkline 0800 917 8282 could give you information about this. Frank also does a lot of good work with people who are dealing with things like this. You can find out more on the Frank website and by calling 0800 77 66 00. Perhaps it could be a good idea for your mum to give them a ring and find out what help there might be available for your dad in your area.
It can be hard being a child of a person who has alcoholism and it’s natural that you would need some support too. Perhaps you can check out Alateen for some more information, support and advice.
Please also remember that you can get in touch with ChildLine. You can talk things over with a ChildLine counsellor; talk about how you are feeling or to get some more advice and information.
Take care
Sam