Hi there
Thanks for getting in touch with me about these difficult things that are going on at home for you. It sounds like things are quite tough in your family at the moment, so it’s great that you decided to write to me about it.
You’ve said that sometimes your fights with dad are about little things, but sometimes they are more serious, and that your dad gets angry with your mum as well. It sounds as though it’s really hard for you to see your mum getting upset. I understand that it can be really hard to see your parents row, and that it can feel confusing and scary.
Something I do want you to know is that this isn’t your fault at all. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing or not doing, your dad shouldn’t be behaving in ways that are scaring you and upsetting your mum so much. It is up to parents to look after their children and make them feel safe, not to make them worried and frightened.
Have you talked to anyone else about what things are like at home and your worries around that? Perhaps you could think about asking your mum and dad to sit down with you together, so that you can all talk calmly about the situation and how it makes everyone feel. Or you could consider talking to your mum alone, and seeing what she thinks might be a good idea.
Another option that you always have is to contact ChildLine either on freephone 0800 1111 or come through for a 1-2-1 online chat via the website. You could talk the situation through a little more with a counsellor and see if between you, you can come up with some more options.
Take care, and thanks for writing to me,
Sam