Hi there
It’s really good that you decided to write to me about this and I’d really like to help. I can hear how you are suffering in this situation.
It can be tough when a family member has ADHD and I understand how challenging and emotionally draining it can be. At the same time, it is extremely important that you are safe and no one is allowed to harm you in the way you have described. I can see that your parents seem to be struggling with your brother but they still have a duty to keep you safe. I suspect that it might be upsetting for you when no one seems to be protecting you.
I’m wondering what support your brother has with ADHD and if he has been diagnosed with this? A doctor could make sure that he is taking the right treatment and is getting the right help.
It seems like you feel supported by your boyfriend and that’s really good but I’m wondering whether you would still be thinking about moving in with him if things were better at home? At age 16, young people can leave home but must have their parents’ consent. That could be different, if the young person is living in an abusive situation.
If you don’t feel that things are changing, maybe you could speak to a ChildLine counsellor about this? They would help you to explore your feelings and find a way forward. You can do this by ringing 0800 1111 (calls are free) or having a 1-2-1 chat online.
If you would like more information about leaving home, there are a couple of websites that you might find useful: Children's legal centre and The Site.org. You could also get some advice about this from your Social Services.
Take good care and please remember that you can contact ChildLine at anytime for support.
Sam