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20/06/10 6:28pm 

Father's day 

Hi - I don't know what to do. I am 16 and my parent's have recently divorced and I am not talking to my dad or seeing him (my choice) - as he has been having an affair and I am very angry/hurt by this. My problem is this weekend was my mum's and i didn't know what to do for father's day - e.g. send a card. In the end I did nothing. However now he's texted my mum and had a go at her  'cause we haven't done anything - which isn't really fair as my siblings have got him a card and prezzie but were waiting to see him to give it to him. It's just I don't know what to do know - as I don't want to get into to trouble or be mean, it's juts also I don't want him to think I want to see him by giving him a card etc.. CONFUSED!  Please help me as I really need advice - hopefully this week so I can sort out this problem 

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Sam 

25/06/10 2:36pm 

Hi thanks for writing to me

I can see that what's happened with your parents' divorce has put you in a difficult position. I can also understand how angry and hurt you must be.

It can be really difficult for young people to cope with how adults in their lives behave and it sounds like you've thought really hard about your relationship with your dad.

You've made it clear to me how you feel. I don't know what's going on with your parents, but sometimes parents who've separated can use their children as an excuse to continue the arguments that made them separate in the first place. I guess what I'm saying is that your situation is quite complicated and it sounds like you need someone you can talk things through with.

Perhaps you'd consider calling ChildLine and talk with a counsellor? They will listen to you and help you deal with all the feelings you have.

You can call ChildLine free on 0800 1111 at any time or even have a 1-2-1 chat. ChildLine counsellors talk to many young people with problems such as yours, it does help to talk so please give it a try.

You may even want to think about posting a message on the ChildLine message boards and see if other young people have had similar issues on Father's Day

Take care

Sam

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