Hi there,
Thanks for the message
I am really glad that you’ve been able to write to me as it sounds as though it is a difficult and upsetting time for you.
You mentioned being in a relationship and splitting up recently and it’s made you extremely upset, breaking up with someone can be a really difficult and upsetting thing to go through, especially if the break up wasn’t your decision. We all have different emotional responses to things that happen to us and there is no right or wrong way for you to feel, what’s important is that you get the right support so that you can start to feel better.
Sometimes it can be helpful to think about how long have you've been feeling you’ve been emotionally attached for or letting everything get to you, to see if there was anything else going on when it first started.
You said that you want to find a way to calm your temper down and it’s really good that you’ve been able to recognise that you need some support with this and that you want to find other ways to release these feelings that you are having. Some people can find it helpful to write down how they are feeling- keeping a feeling diary, write poems or draw pictures. Other people can find it helpful if they do something active like going for a run, dancing or doing a sport, while some people can find it helpful learning relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or yoga.
You may want to visit the ChildLine message boards, this is where you can read what young people say about lots of topics, including partner relationships, to get support from others who may be in similar situations to you, you can also add your own thoughts or start a new thread if you want to.
Take care
Sam