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16/02/2011 9:04pm 

Emotions and bullying 

 i am scared i dont know what is happening i had to move to england from my country and i made friends , i moved to a new school and made new friends and now i moved to my secondary school and everyone is so different my parents didnt let me choose my school so i had to start over . i only have 1 girl-friend and alot of boy-friends and they all have a big group of friends so i feel shy to go ask them if i can hang out with them. also 2 months ago 1 girl punched me and the teacher said that we should forgett it has ever happened and be mature but she still gives me these looks and almost all the girls listen to her and do it  to me too. i am lonely most lunchtimes and breakes and everyone keeps on calling me a loner. when i go to sleep i stay awake for another 2 hours crying and thinking how horrible my life is and how much i miss my old friends. i dont trust any adult or child at school to tell them and  i feel kind of akward saying this to my parents as i know they  want the best for me and didnt mean for all this to happen :(  i am just scared lonely and forrgotten .

ps. i am in yr 7

please tell me what to do i am very lonely but my old friends are very supportive as i still can contact them on my phone and whenever i hear them it makes me want to cry hearing their voice and thinking how good it was when i was younger.

Sam's answer

Sam 

24/02/2011 3:10pm 

Hi there

Thanks for your letter. I think you have been really brave telling me how you have been feeling since joining your secondary school. It can be very difficult trying to make new friends and fit in to a new school and it sounds like you are feeling really lonely. You have said your friends hang around in a big group and that makes it hard for you to hang out with them. Perhaps it might be easier to mention this to one of your friends, then maybe they could find a way to help bring you into the group.

What the girls at school are doing to you is a type of bullying and nobody has a right to bully you. I know you said there are no adults that you trust to talk to at school about this but maybe you could talk this over with a friend as your school have a duty to protect you.

It sounds like you are spending quite a lot of time feeling lonely. You have said that your old friends support you when you talk to them on the phone. Maybe you could talk to them about how you have been feeling and ask them for some ideas of how to feel less lonely. You might like to have a look at the ChildLine message board about Loneliness where other young people have shared how they feel.

I want you to know if you would like to talk more about this, or anything else, you can always contact ChildLine for support. You can call a counsellor free on 0800 1111, or sign up for an account and send them an email or have an online chat.
 
Take care

Sam

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