Hi there
Thanks for taking the time out to write to me.
It sounds as though you have had a lot to deal with recently and its good that you have recognised that you feel you need someone to talk to. We all need some support from time to time.
I’m sorry to hear about your loss, it sounds as though you really miss your Dad and were not able to spend as much time with him as you would have liked. It is difficult for anyone to deal with the loss of a loved one, especially a parent.
Losing someone that we care a lot about can take some time to come to terms with, it seems as though you may be at the beginning of this process. People grieve in many different ways and it may be important to remember that there is no right or wrong way.
You ask about whether it is ok to cry and it sounds as though you are worried about upsetting others by crying, but crying can be a way to release difficult emotions and to relieve built up feelings. It is ok to cry. How would it feel for you to think about talking to those who you think may get upset? It could also help them to deal with their loss.
You have told me that you are desperate to talk to someone, it could be really useful for you to talk to a counsellor at ChildLine, you can phone them on: 0800 11 11, or if you prefer you can chat on line.
A really good website that you may want to take a look at is Winston's Wish. This is a website that helps young people to understand more about bereavement and how this affects them. There is also a helpline for Winston’s Wish that you may find useful the number is: 08452 03 04 05.
Thanks again for writing, take care for now.
Sam