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22/04/2011 10:21pm 

I feel sad 

I cry almost every night, and then i feel guilty because of it. I spend to much time feeling sorry for myself when there are people who are a lot more worse of than i am, i have good friends and a loving family. On the exterior you could say im happy, i try to put on a brave face but secretly i would like to kill myself. I can't ever see myself feeling happy again so i think whats the point in hanging around, and for what.

No one know's about this apart from me, i figure its just easier that way. It means that i don't have to worry about who i can trust and who i can't also i wouldn't like anyone to freak out or make a big fuss. I hate fuss and equally hate too much attention.

So i guess i'm writing this because i feel its my only option. I don't want my parents to know  because they have a lot more to worry about financialy etc. and i think telling someone close to me will only increase the risk of them finding out. Although i wouldn't even know where to begin if i was to tell someone...

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Sam 

05/05/2011 2:57pm 

Hi

Thanks for your letter. It sounds like you are feeling really sad at the moment but you aren’t sure why that is. I can hear that you feel like you should be happy because you have good friends and a loving family and you feel guilty because you are aware that there are people who are worse off than you.

It sounds like you are feeling really low despite those things and you have said you can’t imagine yourself ever being happy and would secretly like to kill yourself. It’s very concerning that you are feeling like this.

It can be really difficult to cope with feelings when we don’t understand where they come from. Maybe it would help to think about what was happening in your life when you started to feel so sad. I want to let you know that you are not alone, lots of young people tell me that they have times when they feel sad but they are not sure why.

It sounds like trusting people might be difficult for you as you say it’s easier that nobody knows about how you feel. I’m wondering what makes it hard for you to trust people. It seems like you don’t want anyone to find out about how you are feeling because you don’t want them to worry.

I can hear that writing to me feels like your only option and I’m glad that you did. Sometimes it can help to share a problem with someone.

I would encourage you to talk to a counsellor at ChildLine, they won’t tell anyone what you talk about and they will be happy to support you and try and find ways to help you feel better. Everybody has good days and bad days and you won't always feel so sad. You might not feel like this at the moment but things can get better. You can contact ChildLine free on 0800 1111, through 1-2-1 chat or email.

Take care

Sam

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