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To Sam 01/03/2011 10:16am	Everything seems pointless Basically, in my life ive never actually had any friends. Ive always been bullied to a point where i had to go to hospital a few times, im constantly getting hate from everyone i know... and i never have anybody to talk to. I self harm almost everyday so bad ive passed out once because i lost so much blood. Ive always been suicidel but im too scared to bring myself to actually do it, so insted i just constantly think about doing it feeling down. Im 16 and almost finished school, i hardly go to school, i skive all the time including exams, im failing in every subject. I always feel depressed and i hate myself for that becuase it makes me feel pathetic becuase im never happy. Im failing school, bullied, no friends, self-harm, insomnia, refuse to eat all the time so i have to force myself to eat and it makes me feel sick. Plus my girlfriend is sucidel and wants to kill herself with me, she keeps saying things like 'lets leave this world together' and knowing her she would do it... I honestly dont know what to do =/
Sam 04/03/2011 1:59pm	Hello, Thank you for sending your letter to me. It sounds like there are a lot of different issues going on for you and the feelings that go with these are really overwhelming and hard to cope with. You said that you are being bullied and this has left you in hospital on occasions. I want you to know that bullying is wrong and no one has the right to hurt you. On the ChildLine website there are message boards where you can talk to other young people who have experienced bullying, it might be helpful to have a look on there. It seems like as well as the bullying you are finding things difficult at school - a lot of schools have support that they can offer to people who are struggling with work and other issues. Perhaps you could talk to a trusted adult at school and letting them know how you are feeling? It sounds like you are using self-harm at the moment as a way of dealing with everything that’s going on for you. Our counsellors at ChildLine hear from a lot of young people that use self harm to help them cope. It's really important when you are self-harming to do it in as safe a way as you can, look after the wounds by keeping them clean and seek medical help if you need to. There is a website that offers support for people who self harm that might be useful, www.selfharm.org.uk You told me in your letter that you have been feeling really unhappy and having thoughts about suicide but that you are too scared to bring yourself to actually do it. It sounds like you are feeling really stuck and unsure about what to do - you have done really well to write to me about this. There is a lot going on for you right now and I would encourage you to come through and talk to a ChildLine counsellor who would be able to listen to you and support you to explore how you are feeling. You can choose to contact them by phone for free on 0800 1111, or sign up for a ChildLine account and have a 1-2-1 online chat or send an email. Take care, Sam

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01/03/2011 10:16am

Everything seems pointless

Basically, in my life ive never actually had any friends. Ive always been bullied to a point where i had to go to hospital a few times, im constantly getting hate from everyone i know... and i never have anybody to talk to.

I self harm almost everyday so bad ive passed out once because i lost so much blood. Ive always been suicidel but im too scared to bring myself to actually do it, so insted i just constantly think about doing it feeling down. Im 16 and almost finished school, i hardly go to school, i skive all the time including exams, im failing in every subject.

I always feel depressed and i hate myself for that becuase it makes me feel pathetic becuase im never happy. Im failing school, bullied, no friends, self-harm, insomnia, refuse to eat all the time so i have to force myself to eat and it makes me feel sick.

Plus my girlfriend is sucidel and wants to kill herself with me, she keeps saying things like 'lets leave this world together' and knowing her she would do it... I honestly dont know what to do =/

Sam

04/03/2011 1:59pm

Hello,

Thank you for sending your letter to me. It sounds like there are a lot of different issues going on for you and the feelings that go with these are really overwhelming and hard to cope with.

You said that you are being bullied and this has left you in hospital on occasions. I want you to know that bullying is wrong and no one has the right to hurt you. On the ChildLine website there are message boards where you can talk to other young people who have experienced bullying, it might be helpful to have a look on there.

It seems like as well as the bullying you are finding things difficult at school - a lot of schools have support that they can offer to people who are struggling with work and other issues. Perhaps you could talk to a trusted adult at school and letting them know how you are feeling?

It sounds like you are using self-harm at the moment as a way of dealing with everything that’s going on for you. Our counsellors at ChildLine hear from a lot of young people that use self harm to help them cope. It's really important when you are self-harming to do it in as safe a way as you can, look after the wounds by keeping them clean and seek medical help if you need to. There is a website that offers support for people who self harm that might be useful, www.selfharm.org.uk

You told me in your letter that you have been feeling really unhappy and having thoughts about suicide but that you are too scared to bring yourself to actually do it. It sounds like you are feeling really stuck and unsure about what to do - you have done really well to write to me about this. There is a lot going on for you right now and I would encourage you to come through and talk to a ChildLine counsellor who would be able to listen to you and support you to explore how you are feeling. You can choose to contact them by phone for free on 0800 1111, or sign up for a ChildLine account and have a 1-2-1 online chat or send an email.

Take care,

Sam

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